Couples who are in love will have sex with each other on a regular basis. Truly, couples who are happiest in their relationships both love their partners more and have sex more frequently. Sexual activity builds and maintains feelings of love and even happiness that endure over time.
Every marriage goes through a rough patch. But truly resilient couples who come out the other side after going through hard times will be stronger than before. So, what are these couples doing that everyone else isn’t? They’re willing to do what it takes to keep the relationship alive.
An interesting psychological study by Arthur Aron identifies 12 ties that bind long lasting relationships. These 12 dimensions can help your marriage survive difficult times:
- Display affection: expressing love in physical ways will keep your relationship passionate. To the woman, there is no point playing hard to get. Bask in the touch on your shoulder or kiss on the cheek to keep things intense. It is good for your peace of mind.
- Show vulnerability: opening up and being vulnerable gives you the opportunity to connect with your partner on a deeper level. There is no love without vulnerability. If you have trouble being open and vulnerable with your partner, surviving tough times together may be a huge challenge for you.
- Celebrate good times: one thing that gets overlooked is celebrating each other’s milestones from birthdays to promotions. If you can’t support each other during the good times, how can you be there during the tough ones? If you consistently celebrate each other, you’ll be able to overcome anything together.
- Positive thoughts only: focus on the good, not the bad, in your spouse’s personal qualities and character. Always engage in sentiment override, meaning that you remember more of the favorable than the unfavorable experiences you’ve shared together.
- Work on your friendship: friendship is a cushion for hard times and it is not that hard to crack. Spending time together, talking, cooking, dish washing, grocery shopping, and even cleaning the house together to strengthen your love for each other.
- Regular sexual intercourse: couples who are in love will have sex with each other on a regular basis. Truly, couples who are happiest in their relationships both love their partners more and have sex more frequently. Sexual activity builds and maintains feelings of love and even happiness that endure over time.
- Have regular date nights out: when things are tough in your relationship, you’re more likely to fight for it if you feel deeply connected to your partner. Regular date nights are a wonderful way for couples to connect and communicate. When couples aren’t dating each other on a regular basis, this may be a sign that the fire has frizzled.
- Having a strong passion for life: approach life daily with zest and carry these intense feelings over to your love life as well. To make your relationship passionate, put that same emotional energy to work on your hobbies, interests, and even your religious activities. Getting fired up in these areas of life translates into firing up the feelings you have toward your partner.
- Chill at home together without company: enjoy quiet nights in with your partner just enjoying each other’s company. Making this an habit will ensure that your relationship survives hard times. Couple who prioritize spending time with each other will find it easy to overcome tough times together.
- Keeping a tab on your partner at all times: being intensely in love, for men, is associated with wanting to know your partner’s whereabouts. This component of intense love may seem a bit like stalking. But to put a positive spin on it, if you want to know where your partner is, this reflects the fact that your partner isn’t very far from your thoughts.
- Be open and honest about your financial situation: money is a major relationship killer and the biggest source of stress in marriages. In cases of financial hardship, things will go wrong if one partner is hiding something from the other. So to overcome that, it’s important to always keep each other in the loop about your financial situation so there are no surprises.